Comparison Kills

Happy Friday. Can you believe it? I made an entire week following my blogging schedule. I’m actually really proud of such a minor accomplishment.

Today’s post is going to be a little bit different. I was inspired by the lovely Lifestyle For Your Eyes and their post Wanting Merchandise. The post talked a little about comparison and self-appreciation, and it really got me thinking. Especially lately, I’ve found it hard not to compare myself to others. I’ve learned that the more that you constantly compare yourself to others, the more you learn to hate the things you once loved about yourself. It’s no longer “good enough.” Essentially, comparing yourselves to others is one of the worst things you can do.

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It’s very difficult not to compare yourself. I do it all the time, mostly without even thinking twice. I always see someone walk by and I think, “Wow, I wish my hair was as nice as hers,” or “I wish my makeup would come out that flawlessly,” and instead of just enjoying the other girl’s beauty and skills, I start to feel very self-conscious of my hair and makeup that day and I start to feel like everyone is wondering why my hair looks so weird, or why my makeup isn’t blended in enough (and it definitely is, I check it like, a million times before I leave. Nothing worse than unblended makeup).

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I don’t know very many people who haven’t ever felt these feelings before, but sometimes I feel them on a higher level than normal. I do appreciate her hair and her makeup, of course, but it’s hard for me to appreciate them without despising my own. I feel like it’s ingrained in us, that feeling like we aren’t good enough or pretty enough. Like I said, I know plenty of people who share the same thoughts. That’s why it’s so ridiculously important (yet still difficult) to practice self love and self appreciation.

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I know that sometimes it can feel a bit silly or arrogant to think how great you are or how good you look, but it’s important. It doesn’t matter if you appear full of yourself if you know how to appreciate yourself for the qualities you do have. I really like this picture, because I feel like it can be really helpful. If you’re having trouble thinking of something to compliment yourself on, just think of this. You’re good news.

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There are a million people out there who appreciate your millions of traits in a million different ways, but it honestly doesn’t matter. The most important thing is that you’re confident in yourself and when you are, you appear confident to others. I’ve seen a quote before that goes, “How can others love you when you don’t even love yourself?” And I feel like this quote is super important. It’s very important not to rely solely on the approval of others, and rather only on the approval of yourself. Do you like who you are? If the answer is yes, the rest does not matter. It really doesn’t matter how your hair or makeup looks today. If you know that you’re great, others will as well.


I know that this post was a little different, but I really did want to talk about it. I’m still working myself on practicing self love and appreciation, and let me tell you, it takes a LOT of time and consistency, but it’s worth it, really.

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Disclaimer: All photos were taken from Pinterest and belong to the owners. I am using them only for the purpose of this post.

See you again Monday.

 

UPDATE: As of now, March 17 at 3:45 p.m., I have hit 100 followers! This is totally insane, since I’ve only had this blog for a few weeks. I never expected to meet such wonderful people. You all are good news!

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32 Comments

  1. July 13, 2017 / 10:19 am

    Posts like this are always so helpful. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing so the rest of us can remember It’s not just us.

    • July 13, 2017 / 10:38 am

      Thank you so much! And I’m meaning to check out your blog, I just have a very bad WiFi connection right now!

  2. July 11, 2017 / 3:29 pm

    Great post! Life is not about competing and comparing…When I moved to the city where I live know, a former “friend” told me “I’m sorry that you’re leaving, you were a great competitor!” – That was not nice at all.
    I should really write this down: “The most important thing is that you’re confident in yourself and when you are, you appear confident to others.” – Amazing!

    Have a great day!!
    Sophie, https://aperturewanderlust.wordpress.com/

  3. April 9, 2017 / 9:19 am

    Love this post – so important and very well said!! x

    • Natalie Vinh
      April 9, 2017 / 9:36 am

      Thank you so much!

    • Natalie Vinh
      March 29, 2017 / 12:05 pm

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate it!

  4. March 20, 2017 / 8:32 am

    I think we all and always compare ourselves with others. This is our nature. We want to be better and there’s nothing wrong with that 🙂

  5. March 20, 2017 / 6:50 am

    FABULOUS POST! I think we’re all victims of comparing ourselves to others, a lovely reminder to see past it!

  6. March 19, 2017 / 3:58 pm

    Great post! I still find that I compare myself against others despite years of trying to get out of the habit! Nothing good comes from it and I’m glad I found your post as it’s such a nice reminder. And congrats on reaching 100 followers! 🙂

    • Natalie Vinh
      March 20, 2017 / 11:09 am

      Thank you so much! And thanks for reading!

  7. March 19, 2017 / 12:07 pm

    It’s a fine balance I think. It’s so important to love yourself, but you still want to leave room to get better or become a better person. I’m very conscious about my body. And overtime I’ve understood it has no use comparing myself. I find that if I focus on what looks good on me, I’ll feel happier. I also get self conscious when people have accomplished something that I haven’t… But I’ve also learned to focus on what I’m good at. You are unique and there’s no use of wanting to copy someone else’s life! I love these types of posts, they make you think about life! Thx for sharing! xoxo Sarah

    • Natalie Vinh
      March 19, 2017 / 1:09 pm

      Thanks for sharing your insight!

    • Natalie Vinh
      March 19, 2017 / 10:37 am

      Thank you!

  8. March 18, 2017 / 1:33 pm

    This is such a lovely post! I just followed your blog and I hope you can check out mine💗Xx

    • Natalie Vinh
      March 18, 2017 / 2:22 pm

      Thank you! I just followed your blog as well!

  9. March 18, 2017 / 8:42 am

    You are so right! I do love these quotes 🙂

  10. March 17, 2017 / 12:43 pm

    Great post!! You really were able to hit some spots that I missed and basically put things in words that I just could not figure out how to. I’m glad to hear that my post inspired you to write such a lovely reminder to yourself and everyone reading this that they are worthy of feeling good about themselves! Thanks for helping me spread this message along 🙂 Means a lot to me! Best of luck with your journey to self love, I believe it is a continuous journey but if we try daily we will notice a difference!

    • Natalie Vinh
      March 17, 2017 / 12:51 pm

      Thank you so much for inspiring my post! I wouldn’t have known where to start without reading yours first! You’re good news!!

  11. March 17, 2017 / 10:55 am

    Aww, I definitely agree! This is so true, and something a lot of people need to hear. It’s so hard NOT to compare yourself to others though, so that’s why we have to be aware of that and try our best to ignore that critical little voice. Thank you for this wonderful insight, Natalie! <3

    • Natalie Vinh
      March 17, 2017 / 11:28 am

      Thank you for reading!

  12. March 17, 2017 / 10:25 am

    Really needed this post today! Such great thoughts, I am the worst for comparing… people actually tell me all the time I am. I need to remind myself to chill out and love myself more often, that’s for sure! xxx

    • Natalie Vinh
      March 17, 2017 / 10:26 am

      Thank you so much! You are good news!

  13. Amy
    March 17, 2017 / 10:14 am

    💕❤️ great post!

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